Bought Dale Carnegie's book yesterday
the title caught my attention
How to Win Friends & Influence People
As david said, human relations are important
i deeply agreed with him
what i believe is,
we all should learn how to deal with people
Donald Trump was probably the SiFu
in dealing with people.
i just finished the first chapter of the book
and then i reflect on what i've done recently.
and ofcoz i regret for what i did.
Carnegie says that criticism is futile.
Criticism puts a person on the defensive state
and makes him strive to justify himself.
It is dangerous coz it wounds a person's precious pride,
and hurts his sense of importance.
Criticisms are like homing pigeons, they always return home.
the person we are going to correct and condemn will probably
justify himself and we in return, get condemned.
Abraham Lincoln was regarded as the most perfect ruler of men on earth.
However, he used to criticise others via letter and in newspaper.
One day, one of his victim (James Shields) confronted him,
he wanted a fight with Lincoln, but Lincoln cant get out of this,
he was given the choice of weapons, and prepared to fight to the death.
at the last minute, their seconds interrupted and stopped the duel.
After this incident, Lincoln stop criticise others.
This is one of his quote after the incident:
"Don't criticise others, they are just what we would be under similar circumstances."
and recently i criticise someone badly
i criticise what he should not do
i even condemn him
and ofcoz,
in return i get condemned.
we try to justify ourself.
we wound each others
in terms of precious pride and our sense of importance.
well..
what done is done
i cant change what i've done
so i gonna learn from it
and hope it will never repeat again in the future
i apologize to those i condemn
sorry if i hurt your feeling.
'criticisms are like homing pigeons, they always return home.'
when i criticise others, im the first one who kena.
finally,
everyone of us have our own precious pride,
a sense of importance.
we cant ignore others' pride and their sense of importance.
therefore, we shud respect each others.
exam is near,
lets put all this aside,
concentrate on study
Have nice day ~~~
the title caught my attention
How to Win Friends & Influence People
As david said, human relations are important
i deeply agreed with him
what i believe is,
we all should learn how to deal with people
Donald Trump was probably the SiFu
in dealing with people.
i just finished the first chapter of the book
and then i reflect on what i've done recently.
and ofcoz i regret for what i did.
Carnegie says that criticism is futile.
Criticism puts a person on the defensive state
and makes him strive to justify himself.
It is dangerous coz it wounds a person's precious pride,
and hurts his sense of importance.
Criticisms are like homing pigeons, they always return home.
the person we are going to correct and condemn will probably
justify himself and we in return, get condemned.
Abraham Lincoln was regarded as the most perfect ruler of men on earth.
However, he used to criticise others via letter and in newspaper.
One day, one of his victim (James Shields) confronted him,
he wanted a fight with Lincoln, but Lincoln cant get out of this,
he was given the choice of weapons, and prepared to fight to the death.
at the last minute, their seconds interrupted and stopped the duel.
After this incident, Lincoln stop criticise others.
This is one of his quote after the incident:
"Don't criticise others, they are just what we would be under similar circumstances."
and recently i criticise someone badly
i criticise what he should not do
i even condemn him
and ofcoz,
in return i get condemned.
we try to justify ourself.
we wound each others
in terms of precious pride and our sense of importance.
well..
what done is done
i cant change what i've done
so i gonna learn from it
and hope it will never repeat again in the future
i apologize to those i condemn
sorry if i hurt your feeling.
'criticisms are like homing pigeons, they always return home.'
when i criticise others, im the first one who kena.
finally,
everyone of us have our own precious pride,
a sense of importance.
we cant ignore others' pride and their sense of importance.
therefore, we shud respect each others.
exam is near,
lets put all this aside,
concentrate on study
Have nice day ~~~
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